Pronouns are words we use to refer to people without using their names. Just like names, pronouns are an important part of how we identify ourselves and how others see us. Using someone's correct pronouns shows respect for their identity and creates a more inclusive environment.
On Pronoun Book, we respect all pronouns—whether traditional or newly coined. This guide will help you understand common pronoun sets and how to use them respectfully.
Traditionally masculine pronouns, but anyone can use them regardless of gender presentation.
Example: "This is Alex. He loves photography. I met him at the park. That camera is his.He takes beautiful photos himself."
Traditionally feminine pronouns, but anyone can use them regardless of gender presentation.
Example: "This is Jordan. She loves painting. I met her at the gallery. That artwork is hers.She creates amazing pieces herself."
Gender-neutral pronouns that can be used by anyone. Commonly used by non-binary individuals, but not exclusively.
Example: "This is Sam. They love music. I met them at the concert. That guitar is theirs.They write songs themselves."
Less common but valid pronouns. Some people feel these pronouns best represent their identity. Always respect someone's choice to use it/its.
Example: "This is Riley. It loves coding. I met it at the hackathon. That laptop is its.It builds apps itself."
Coined pronouns (also called neopronouns) are newly created pronouns that some people use to express their identity in ways that traditional pronouns don't capture. On Pronoun Book, you can create and share your own coined pronouns with custom example sentences.
Examples of coined pronouns: xe/xem, ze/zir, fae/faer, ey/em, and many others. Each person who uses coined pronouns will typically provide examples of how to use them correctly.
Ask and respect
When meeting someone new, it's okay to ask "What pronouns do you use?" Respect their answer and use those pronouns consistently.
Practice makes perfect
If you're not used to certain pronouns, practice using them in sentences. It gets easier with time.
Correct mistakes gracefully
If you use the wrong pronoun, quickly correct yourself and move on. Don't make a big deal out of it or over-apologize.
Share your own pronouns
Sharing your pronouns (in your profile, posts, or bio) helps normalize the practice and makes it easier for others to do the same.
Don't assume
Don't assume someone's pronouns based on their name, appearance, or voice. Always check their profile or ask respectfully.
Don't debate pronouns
Someone's pronouns are not up for debate. Using someone's correct pronouns is a basic form of respect.
Don't misgender intentionally
Intentionally using the wrong pronouns for someone is disrespectful and violates our community guidelines.
Using someone's correct pronouns is a fundamental way to show respect for their identity. For many people, being referred to by the wrong pronouns can be deeply uncomfortable or even harmful. When we make the effort to use correct pronouns, we create a more welcoming and inclusive community for everyone.
On Pronoun Book, we celebrate pronoun diversity and encourage everyone to express their authentic selves. Whether you use traditional pronouns, coined pronouns, or are still exploring what feels right for you, this is a space where your identity is respected and valued.
If you have questions about pronoun usage or need support, our community is here to help. You can: